I think I'm in love with Cary Tennis (sorry, husband),

Today is one of the best ever Cary Tennis columns. I love his poetry and insight into the ebb and flow of feelings, power and action. It fits in with a lot of ideas that have been percolating in my mind lately.

How indeed do you shake off your parents' ignorant judgment?

You do it by standing in the hurricane. You do it by remaining conscious in the moment, by feeling but not acting.

In doing this, you realize that your parents are not robbing you of your freedom. You are just having feelings in their presence.

(Disclaimer - I realize that some people may leap to conclusions about my relationship with my parents. This article has no parallels to my relationship with my parents, but can be more meaningful if you substitute the word "other person" for parent. Plus I like the general ideas behind the details. In fact, when I read the letters in response to the column I was surprised at how many of them addressed the details of the situation since that was not what was important to me - it really seemed inconsequential.)